Obstacles, problems, challenges, roadblocks: we have all encountered then at some point in our lives. Some of these being greater in intensity than others. Yet we all seem to develop a great fear when we are faced with such circumstances, the fear of the unknown, the fear of failure and the greatest fear of all; the fear of loss, whether it be a commodity or a person. But looking at this from an alternative perspective, why are obstacles present in our life? What purpose do they have?
All obstacles will make any individual into a stronger, more determined person with the internal passion and enthusiasm to succeed. It’s certainly not true that such obstacles won’t hurt, cause much distress and disappointment. They do! And they hurt bad sometimes for an extended period of time. But the one purpose any obstacle has is to test an individuals own boundaries, own determination and desire to succeed. Often people state that they are unable to cope in such situations as its outside their immediate comfort zone. But stop! Ask yourself, what do you want to achieve? A new car? A new house? A promotion or a new job? A wife or husband? A new family? What is more important? The obstacle, or the end goal? When our perspective is changed often our mind-set is changed and our attitude too. Yet we live in complete fear, what ifs become yet another obstacle. These what ifs delay us from reaching our goal, we may not start or may call off the entire thing purely based on fear. The obstacles in our life are not there to deter us from our end goals, instead are there to inspire us to strive forward to achieve, to obtain and to succeed. It is in the very struggle that we learn new skills essential for life such as negotiation, patience and self-confidence. We discover new paths, new problem solving techniques and up on every triumph we gain confidence to explore further.
Obstacles do not determine our destiny, it is our attitude and approach to them which dictates our final achievement. We must believe entirely with our heart that we will succeed, we must accept that there will be problems and delays but look at these from a positive perspective. Having faith in your own self, your own beliefs, your own abilities is key to success. Perhaps this time delay has been given for a more pressing priority, a priority we may have overlooked. This delay maybe the entire obstacle, something which is entirely achievable by us. The alteration in our perceptive can make a big difference. I like obstacles; they teach me to fight even when I have little or no weapons, no ideas, no answers and what appears to be little chance of success. They teach me to be stronger for myself, my loved ones and to have faith, and obstacles teach me remain open-minded for each any every situation has something precious to teach me something which cannot be found in books or texts. Such lessons are found in living life, in actually facing obstacles. Many have told me life is easy if it is enjoyed outside of the constraints of obstacles and to a certain degree I agree. We cannot spend our entire life fighting obstacles, we must take time out to rejoice in the beautiful things that life has to offer us in its unique manner. But life is NOT easy, it IS difficult and this is the ultimate truth there is about life. It is only when we accept this universal truth that we actually begin to enjoy the challenges life has to offer us as well as appreciate the lighter moments of life too. You can move forward with your life and life’s challenges become a lot easier to deal with. Once difficulty is accepted as the very foundation of our life, it no longer surprises you or prevents you from building a lifestyle, attitude and approach which rises above it and tackles it with great force. People who gain and build strength by overcoming challenges and obstacles possesses the only strength which can overcome adversity.
If you’re trying to achieve something great and something worthwhile in life there will be roadblocks. I’ve had them; everybody has had them yet obstacles must not don’t stop you. If we run into a wall, its unlikely that you’ll turn around and give up. Most people will look around for a door or how to climb it, go through it, or work around it. When you are at your lowest point, you are open to the greatest positive change that could happen to you. Happiness, peace and success is not at all the absence of problems, but the strength and faith to deal with them. Strength is not a direct result of what you can do; it is gained and built on how you overcome the challenges you once thought were not possible. All the choices that people make bring them to their current point in life. Ask yourself, where do you want to go next? We have learnt a lot from the paths we have walked, some positive, some negative, some painful and others much more beautiful. But what have you really learnt? From an infinite pool of possibilities, you have learned how to face challenges that life has brought your way. These have injected your life with a new lease of life, a new set of goals and a new passion to succeed. What are the possibilities that most interest you now? Life does not just happen to us, it happens because of us – it’s what you choose to think, do, and create in each moment of difficulty that determines your end result. So what do you choose? Right now is an opportunity of a lifetime. We only get one life to pursue the dreams that make us come alive. It is better to be failing while learning at doing something we love and enjoy, rather than succeeding at doing something we feel mediocre about. Take chances on behalf of what you believe in and fail until you succeed because it is failing within these challenges that will allow for new paths to be created and opened. Step out beyond the safety of your comfort zone over and over again. Face your fears with courage and passion. Keep your word and hold true to your vision until it comes to life.
One lesson I have learnt during my times of adversity is that when you are up in life, your successful and happy your friends SEE who you are. When life brings you roadblocks and challenges, you get to know who your true friends are. There will be a great number of people when you are successful, happy and when times are easy. But take note of and always remember people who remain in your life when life get tough, especially the people who sacrifice the resources they have in their own life to help you improve yours when you really need it most. These people are your true friends.
Life is full of challenges, face them and tackle them with all your might. Enjoy this, as tackling challenges makes life interesting but overcoming them is what makes our lives meaningful!
“The boy who is going to make a great man must not make up his mind merely to overcome a thousand obstacles, but to win in spite of a thousand repulses and defeats.”